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 Random confessions, Maybe this is stupid, maybe this is fun
Becksthewolf
 Posted: Aug 23 2015, 07:01 PM
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I miss my ex girlfriend even though she was hell abusive.

I am such a people pleaser that I will do things even though I don't want to.
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 Posted: Aug 24 2015, 10:24 AM
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i wish people were less nervous around me but i don't know how to put them at ease without sounding fake

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 Posted: Aug 25 2015, 12:51 PM
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One of the only concrete things I've ever wanted in life is a dog.

I'm moving across the state to transfer schools but I'm leaving my dream jobs behind.

I've been a Vegetarian for over 11 years.

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Becksthewolf
 Posted: Aug 28 2015, 11:06 PM
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I recently made out with somebody but I regretted it. It was like cyber sex but thier not the person I want. When I told the person that I do want the truth, they basically said we'd never be together because of distance.

Sometimes I purposely forget to take my anti-depressants because I'd rather feel something then nothing at all.
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abbey
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sometimes i feel like i can't depend on anyone but myself.
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Lar
 Posted: Sep 10 2015, 02:01 PM
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if i actually confessed stuff it would upset people and so i don't.
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alyeska
 Posted: Sep 12 2015, 10:53 AM
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QUOTE (Lar @ Sep 10 2015, 02:01 PM)
if i actually confessed stuff it would upset people and so i don't.


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sometimes i tell people honest things without any real expectations, but more often than not they tell me they 'don't know how to respond to (me)' or 'don't know what to do when (i) say these things'
sometimes they ask me what game i'm playing.
or what reaction i'm hoping for.
sometimes they flat out ask me why i say these things.
or if i'm trying to upset or frustrate everyone.

it took me an embarrassingly long time to realize people prefer pleasant lies to uncomfortable honesty, but i (eventually) learned to swallow the truth and replace it with boring lies to appease the people around me.

still, sometimes i get those looks, or those questions again, and i know i've fucked up and said too much. i've learned it's better to say nothing than too much. even this feels wrong, like i should delete the whole thing and shut up.
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abbey
 Posted: Sep 12 2015, 06:06 PM
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QUOTE (Lar @ Sep 10 2015, 02:01 PM)
if i actually confessed stuff it would upset people and so i don't.

QUOTE (alyeska @ Sep 13 2015, 01:53 AM)
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sometimes i tell people honest things without any real expectations, but more often than not they tell me they 'don't know how to respond to (me)' or 'don't know what to do when (i) say these things'
sometimes they ask me what game i'm playing.
or what reaction i'm hoping for.
sometimes they flat out ask me why i say these things.
or if i'm trying to upset or frustrate everyone.

it took me an embarrassingly long time to realize people prefer pleasant lies to uncomfortable honesty, but i (eventually) learned to swallow the truth and replace it with boring lies to appease the people around me.

still, sometimes i get those looks, or those questions again, and i know i've fucked up and said too much. i've learned it's better to say nothing than too much. even this feels wrong, like i should delete the whole thing and shut up.

i think that most of the time, when people say 'i don't know what to say to that' in response to something you've told them, what they mean is 'i don't know how to soothe you' or 'i don't know how to fix the problem'. we're taught that the end of a conversation should be a return to the status quo; anything that disrupts that throws us off our social balancing beam. often we don't hone our listening (without waiting for our turn to speak) and empathising skills, and some people never do.

it's human nature to be averse to pain and discomfort. however, what you can hopefully do is cultivate a handful of good friends who are happy to listen to you when you need it, even if they can't reach in and fix whatever is bothering you.

you shouldn't just shut up! there are people who want to hear what you have to say, even if it's uncomfortable. it may mean a change of setting, like a quiet sit-down with a friend or therapy.

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 Posted: Dec 7 2015, 05:44 PM
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Once I broke up with a guy at a KFC. He had brought a dirty stuffed animal he bought at a thrift store as a gift. I did not take it.

I find it hard to wake up in the morning without a cat licking my head. She is incredibly consistent. This makes it difficult when I'm on vacation and have left her with my parents.
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bambi
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From time to time, I check my feet and see if the toes next to my big toes have finally grown longer than the big toes yet.

I just checked, and nope, not yet. The race continues.
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